Judging People




Amusing ? article. Yes we do judge people although we like to deny it. But how and according to what?


The following remark  I found interesting and I can relate to (some of) this

Social media. Quote!

I learn more about people I have known my whole life long on Facebook / blogs than I have pieced together over the entire length of our relationship. When someone writes, it becomes relatively easy to see what their angle is. Are they an attention whore? Do they self promote? Do they reciprocate when people interact with them and their content? What are their photographs like? Are they all selfies? Do they hide their spouse and family from the world in order to appear ‘available’? Do they go out of their way to hide how they really look? Do they just play mindless games all day? Do they share popular content in order to get praised?

This does not work if they do not write online, or if they only use social media sparingly, but reading someone’s words is a way straight into their personality if you care to pay attention.

I have also found a vast difference – generally speaking – between my English and Afrikaans friends. Also with what type of food they eat. But I suppose this is cultural? Or what?



The Problem with Trolls….


One thing about WP which is really wonderful is that you can disallow comments and just delete them. That is if they are insulting and abusive. You trash them that is where it ought to be – in the trash bin.

Just some excerpts from an article here

Appearances, they say, can be deceptive. Kirsty Chapman (blonde, slim, pretty) is perhaps living proof of this.

To the outside world, she is a respectable housewife and mother of three. Most days she can be seen out and about in fashionable jeans wheeling a pushchair near her home in Wales.

Remember these details — in particular, the fact she has three children. They make what you are about to read all the more shocking.

For Miss Chapman’s photograph has become chillingly familiar on the internet. Often her Facebook photograph has appeared next to a pseudonym. One of these is ‘Percy’, whose activities have become notorious — targeting the bereaved with vile insults on Facebook tribute sites. It would be hard to imagine a more cruel or sadistic ‘hobby’.

Most revealing, perhaps, is the fact she lives with Darren Burton, who says he met her trolling and who is, by his own admission, a serial ‘troll’. His alter ego, or internet persona, is ‘Nimrod Severn’.

Among the memorial websites Burton has targeted are those of singer-songwriter Amy Winehouse and murdered student Anuj Bidve, gunned down in Salford, Greater Manchester, on Boxing Day.

‘Rot in p***’ is the message Burton left for those grieving Anuj’s death.

When Burton was once challenged online about the hurt and upset he was causing bereaved families, he replied: ‘F*** ’um.’

He has also singled out Madeleine McCann. His vile contribution, using his Nimrod alias, was left on a website specifically set up to mock the missing youngster and her parents, called ‘I Found Maddy . . . She Was Under The Bed All Along’

Real Friends and Enemies, Who needs Facebook?


When we were kids there was no Facebook We had real friends and yes even  real enemies.

You could see them and talk to them in person. We fought and made up and all was soon forgotten because it was probably just a storm in a teacup. Nobody committed suicide because other kids were spreading nasty rumors that reached the whole school and the neighbourhood with just a click of a button.   We were real kids too. Maybe in a way we learned to deal with real  ‘stuff’.

It did not linger out there in cyberspace to come back at you with vengeance. Because what you say on the internet will float around until the end of time, Google will see to that. (I once read that some will have to change their identity at a later stage because of all that was written by them on FB – when they mature they may  regret it).

But now I see (with some amusement) that you can ‘Not like’ on Facebook and make it known.  No wonder that hate and dislike and aggression take over with the use of social media ? I am just wondering out loudly!

I saw this  in the Daily Mail


EnemyGraph is a new app which lets you add Enemies to your Facebook profile – including real victims from your friends list, or from other users of the app.

You can also declare war on any product, person or company that has a presence on Facebook.

As soon as you have declared someone – or something – an Enemy, they appear on your profile on your Enemies list, visible to other users of the app.